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  1. Tse Moana

    Gileonnen wrote:
    Nov. 12th, 2009 10:58 pm (UTC)
    Thank you for sharing your experiences–I went more or less the opposite direction on the same basic set of premises, moving toward genderqueerness and pansexuality because this whole male/female thing is a mug’s game. (Crucial difference: while I do not feel very much sexual desire–my three-person relationship is still essentially nonsexual after three years–I’m not completely without it.)

  2. Tse Moana

    @Gileonnen
    Tse wrote:
    Nov. 12th, 2009 11:51 pm (UTC)
    Thanks for your reply 🙂

    I agree on the male/female thing. I’m not even sure if my differing feelings as described in the last paragraphs are actually divided that way. I just know that when want to wear a dress or something that accentuates my front, my gender feeling is different than when I wear all baggy stuff to hide it. I think the naming is mostly something that grew from stereotype. I’m pretty sure that my understanding of my gender identity will change and evolve over time, especially since at the moment it’s quite at the forefront in my mind.

    I’ve had some issues though, cause I kinda wanna see if and how it influences my gender feeling when I hide my breast but still be able to wear tighter clothes. So I’ve slowly been looking into bandaging them (or however it’s properly called) but find it tricky to find good info.

    With regard to the asexuality. I identify as that because I don’t feel the sexual desire towards others. However, I’m not averse to a relationship, and when it comes to that, I don’t care whether my partner is male, female, neither or something else. At AVEN people usually call this being romantic. So I would be asexual but omni/panromantic. But I personally don’t really like the term romantic so I tend to not name it alot 😀

  3. Tse Moana

    Tse wrote:
    Nov. 12th, 2009 11:52 pm (UTC)
    And then to think the whole point I initially wanted to end up with was genderqueerness and resumes and work things 😀

  4. Tse Moana

    Lee wrote:
    Dec. 27th, 2009 12:33 pm (UTC)
    Cool
    Well, Rianne, i’ve never had any discussion with you about sexuality and stuff, but thats due to me being, kind of, polite lol

    I think you know that i’m a big filthy raging queer and as morose as it sounds, i do like sex. Which in my opinion, is a slight difference. But i also do want the intimacy of a significant other, and with the way things are going just lately, i think a significant other could be just around the corner 🙂

    I have to ask though, do you want the intimacy of a significant other, but without the sexuality? Cause the two things, whilst different, do seem to have some sort of link. I hope you do find someone who is gender neutral aswell and can share these feelings with you.

    Nevertheless, good post, and great insight into you 🙂

    Lee

  5. Tse Moana

    @Lee
    Tse wrote:
    Dec. 31st, 2009 07:55 pm (UTC)
    Re: Cool
    Yes, I was aware of your raging queerness 😀
    Glad you liked the post, expect more in the future, although I’m not very schduled with posting here 😀

    Now, to respond to the question. I do, at some point, hope to find a special someone with whom I can be close in a physical way but then, indeed, without sex and sexuality. I’m of the school of thought where physical intimacy and sex are definitely connected, but do not necessarily follow each other. Kinda like cake decoration, where the cake is a relationship. You can decorate the cake with sprinkles (physical intimacy) which makes you think ‘let’s decorate more’ and you pull out the m&m’s (sex). Or you go, I got enough with just the sprinkles 😀 (hmmm, food metaphors)

  6. Tse Moana

    @Tse Moana
    Lee wrote:
    Jan. 2nd, 2010 12:01 pm (UTC)
    Re: Cool
    Well i have failed to keep to my aim of posting at the end of the day, so we’re both not scheduled at posting on here lol

    That’s well explained ree, i mean you can be physically intimate with someone without having sex with this person and vice versa. I hope you find someone who you can be physically intimate with, i’m sure there’s someone out there who has these feelings aswell, and hey, you never know, you may eventually WANT to have sex with this person, and they, you 🙂

    And i like cake. Chocolate cake though….with custard…mmmmmmm

    xx

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